BDSM Aftercare Guide

Aftercare isn't just cuddling.

Sometimes it's water.

Sometimes it's food.

Sometimes it's silence.

Sometimes it's laughing about the ridiculous thing that just happened.

Sometimes it's simply asking, "What do you need right now?"

Intense experiences can leave people physically or emotionally drained. Some people feel it immediately. Others don't notice until the next day.

That's normal.

The best time to talk about aftercare isn't afterward.

It's before.

Ask questions like:

"What helps you feel grounded afterward?"

"Do you usually like company or space?"

"Can I check in with you tomorrow?"

There aren't bonus points for guessing correctly. Just ask.